Never did I think I'll be able to be truthful to my parents about my relationship with Dearie. I thought they're never very much interested in how my relationship is going on, and besides, I think it's embarrassing to talk about it too.
But it seems like I'm wrong. My parents are in fact very very interested in how both of us are getting on. I can sense that they're extremely supportive of my current relationship, and that makes me really happy.
It took me quite a bit of courage to tell Mum that I am troubled over my looks, and how insecure and inferior I feel about it. I thought she'll just say I'm crazy and brush me aside, but instead, she let me rant on and listened attentively. My tears were about to roll when I suddenly burst into laughter after having heard Dad raising his voice at the back in a defensive and worked-up way, "WHO SAID MY DAUGHTER IS UGLY?! WHO?!?!?"
Was telling Mum that Dearie's ex-admirers are attractive, and whenever I look at myself, I feel quite lousy. No one will believe that he would choose me over them. Apparently, Mum told me that she is confident and trusts that Dearie is true to me, from the way she observed him during her stay in UK and when he came to visit me in Singapore. She could tell that Dearie won't take a fancy in other girls because he doesn't even bother to look at other girls at all. I can tell that Dad likes him very much too, or else he wouldn't be so concerned about Dearie's future and about the progress of our relationship.
Anyway, Dearie mentioned something which made me think today. Actually, it's quite silly to be thinking about this when I'm only 25 this year. Dearie was telling me about this giant piece of land in the mountains which belongs to his family. It's where his ancestors are buried in, and his ancestors who bought this mountain had created levels on it for the future generations to be buried in when they pass away, so that the entire family will always be together. Dearie said he has counted the levels and already knows where his grave will be when he passes away at an old age, and that mine will be next to his. That should actually make me pleased because in a way, it shows that Dearie has his mind fixed to marrying me in future, but at the same time, it made me realise that when I grow old and pass away one day, I will still have to leave home. I love Dearie very much, and I think our relationship shouldn't just last till the day we breathe our last, and I'm sure like other couples, they will wish to buried next to each other when they pass away. It's not that I mind being buried next to him in his family's mountain...to be honest, it's a great honour if I can be buried there, but the thought of having to leave home just makes me sad.
I have lived 25% of my life so far in the UK, and I wish so badly to be home for good. I don't like living abroad, even if Dearie is with me. Although I'm always quarrelling with my Mum, I still wish to be beside my parents. I know that there won't be another place like Home, unless my family migrates elsewhere. I am willing to migrate to China if when my career is established enough to get me a good job there...call me silly..but I did think before about where I would like to be in the last days of my life..and that is nowhere but the place I was born in.
Haha..I think I'm being ridiculous to think about this when I'm still in my 20s. But I know someday, I'll have to face this problem after a few decades should I really get married to Dearie in future.
Sigh..don't understand why I'm having all these weird and negative thoughts that ruins my mood these days...what's wrong with me..?
But it seems like I'm wrong. My parents are in fact very very interested in how both of us are getting on. I can sense that they're extremely supportive of my current relationship, and that makes me really happy.
It took me quite a bit of courage to tell Mum that I am troubled over my looks, and how insecure and inferior I feel about it. I thought she'll just say I'm crazy and brush me aside, but instead, she let me rant on and listened attentively. My tears were about to roll when I suddenly burst into laughter after having heard Dad raising his voice at the back in a defensive and worked-up way, "WHO SAID MY DAUGHTER IS UGLY?! WHO?!?!?"
Was telling Mum that Dearie's ex-admirers are attractive, and whenever I look at myself, I feel quite lousy. No one will believe that he would choose me over them. Apparently, Mum told me that she is confident and trusts that Dearie is true to me, from the way she observed him during her stay in UK and when he came to visit me in Singapore. She could tell that Dearie won't take a fancy in other girls because he doesn't even bother to look at other girls at all. I can tell that Dad likes him very much too, or else he wouldn't be so concerned about Dearie's future and about the progress of our relationship.
Anyway, Dearie mentioned something which made me think today. Actually, it's quite silly to be thinking about this when I'm only 25 this year. Dearie was telling me about this giant piece of land in the mountains which belongs to his family. It's where his ancestors are buried in, and his ancestors who bought this mountain had created levels on it for the future generations to be buried in when they pass away, so that the entire family will always be together. Dearie said he has counted the levels and already knows where his grave will be when he passes away at an old age, and that mine will be next to his. That should actually make me pleased because in a way, it shows that Dearie has his mind fixed to marrying me in future, but at the same time, it made me realise that when I grow old and pass away one day, I will still have to leave home. I love Dearie very much, and I think our relationship shouldn't just last till the day we breathe our last, and I'm sure like other couples, they will wish to buried next to each other when they pass away. It's not that I mind being buried next to him in his family's mountain...to be honest, it's a great honour if I can be buried there, but the thought of having to leave home just makes me sad.
I have lived 25% of my life so far in the UK, and I wish so badly to be home for good. I don't like living abroad, even if Dearie is with me. Although I'm always quarrelling with my Mum, I still wish to be beside my parents. I know that there won't be another place like Home, unless my family migrates elsewhere. I am willing to migrate to China if when my career is established enough to get me a good job there...call me silly..but I did think before about where I would like to be in the last days of my life..and that is nowhere but the place I was born in.
Haha..I think I'm being ridiculous to think about this when I'm still in my 20s. But I know someday, I'll have to face this problem after a few decades should I really get married to Dearie in future.
Sigh..don't understand why I'm having all these weird and negative thoughts that ruins my mood these days...what's wrong with me..?
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