Do couples try to accomodate each other or do they try to change the other into the person they want?

I do know the answer, but there are certain things I cannot accomodate, and it's impossible. I have plans to stay a long time with my boy, but at times, I do wonder if it's possible because I simply cannot accomodate.

I cannot stand some of his habits, and despite nagging, things are still the same. If I am not able to tolerate these, how am I going to live with him in future? And not to mention that I'm terribly picky abt certain things, and my temper is really bad, how can I not blow at things I cannot stand?

1. The kettle overflowing
2. Having melon seed shells all over my carpet
3. Having water on the floor in my toilet
4. Not placing my floor mat properly after using it to wipe away the water
5. Asking me to make supper in the wee hours of the night
6. Having to explain what's on the menu when u don't need bombastic english to understand it
7. Being squashed so badly when sleeping until I'm literally kissing the wall
8. Having to place my bath towel properly on the towel rack after he has used it
9. Getting me to do this and that when I'm freaking busy
10. Walking away to buy himself a drink in a club, leaving me all alone
11. Leaving me to roam the streets myself after quarreling with me

I have mentioned these things time and time again to him, but nothing ever changes and it's very mentally tiring. Does he actually know why I am telling him these things again and again? Does he know I am serious abt it all and I am trying to get him to rid these bad habits before I feel it's possible to live my life with him? And if he really comes to Sg in December and stay in my house, I definitely don't want my Mum to jump. She's a billion times more picky than me.

I still love my boy, and I do love him more than I first did, but I'm not sure about how it's progressing. These habits are holding me back. And I'm confident that with time, it will start eating into the relationship.

Another thing abt me is I get bored easily in a relationship. I like guys who can come up with ideas, and in this relationship, I'm definitely sick of thinking already. So sick that I'll just stay in my room and watch shows on youtube.com, when I'm sick of that actually. I'm just watching because there is nothing else I can think of.

Go travelling? I don't have very much time to move around, since my schedule is really tight, and whenever he's free, I'm occupied with something. And hence, we can only make near trips, but he's been to almost everywhere already, and he's just going because I haven't been there, which turns me off already. Besides, if we go to somewhere unfamiliar, I'm sure I'll probably be the one finding out information and hotels. It's frustrating being the one doing all the job, and only to hear grumbles if the hotel is not good enuff etc.

He's wanting so much to go to Paris, and so do I. But the moment I think about having to plan all that, I am thinking twice.

Actually, all I want is just a proper date, not the "What's in the cinema today? Any new films?" sorta date. I just want to go to a different restaurant for a good and quiet meal with him, but all I get is "I don't know where." I want surprises, even simple ones like "Let's go ice skating!", but I can forget abt it. And it seems like if I do want something, I have to make it "our programme for the day/night". I'm pissed and sick of doing it already.

I guess it has got to the extent that it's showing in my attitude already.

Gosh, when can this turn for the better?